Net Neutrality Threatened by Trump Administration

Tom Wheeler, the former chair of the FCC, used his final speech before stepping down to warn businesses and consumers that their choice of cloud services and business applications could be severely limited if the incoming administration strikes down the 2015 open internet order that he and his group put in place. This order positioned the FCC’s net neutrality regulation that prevents Internet Service Providers from slowing or blocking traffic on their networks. This gives all traffic equal opportunity and speed and prevents network favoritism.

Wheeler also showed concern for the Internet of Things, an area of economic growth that is quickly becoming top of mind to many businesses and policy makers in Washington.

“[T]he growth of the internet of things is another area that depends on the open connectivity of those things,” Wheeler said. “If ISPs can decide arbitrarily which IoT device can be connected, or favor their own IoT activity over their competitors, the bright future of IoT dims.” Wheeler continued, “As everything goes into the cloud, the ability to access the cloud free of gatekeepers is essential. If ISPs get to choose which applications and clouds work better than others in terms of access, speed and latency, they will control the cloud future,”.

Wheeler’s position may not be a surprise now but given his past as a lobbyist for the cable and wireless sector his support of net neutrality may come as a shock.

Bill Wilson, a consultant for Broadband Landing, said, “Wheeler may be underplaying the seriousness of the situation. Net Neutrality is the biggest deal that no one really understands. If consumers and small businesses actually realized what the internet would look like after it was bought and sold by large corporations that was be worried. This would be all that was being talked about.”

Wheeler has the same question many businesses do, namely will Trump dismantle a policy that is clearly working? With republicans openly opposed to net neutrality things do seem dire for the policy.

Wheeler’s speech not only acts as a warning to the incoming administration but also clearly attempts to widen the scope of the net neutrality debate as a whole. Consumer impact of the open internet order is almost always the lead in any discussion of net neutrality but here Wheeler’s focus was on the danger to businesses and their increasing use of cloud computing. Interruption or the slowing of these services is a bit more destructive than a video playing slow. Businesses might be required to completely change back office management systems. A company like could have their customer base divided between users that have an ISP that allows their traffic and ISP’s that won’t. Situations of this type could be repeated across many business services. If AT&T buys a firm that provides CMS to sales and marketing groups, it is not unthinkable that they would show preference to this firm over others.

Wheeler specifically calls out Verizon and AT&T for the “zero rating” programs that give some companies free access by not charging customers for the data they use. While this isn’t the feared “Fast Lane” net neutrality has been trying to avoid, it may actually be worse.

Wheeler finished his speech with, “It now falls to a new set of regulators, to a new FCC and to those who advocate before it and the Congress to determine the road that they want to take from here,” Wheeler said. “We are at a fork in that road. One path leads forward and the other leads back to relitigating solutions that are demonstrably working.”
While the fork in the road analogy fits, it’s actually a bit more drastic than Wheeler makes it seem. One road leads forward and the other leads back a decade and then off a cliff into a hole filled with alligators.

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Nice Rugs for Those Spots in the House Where You Want Your Feet to Feel Cozy

We wanted a thick shaggy rug for in front of the sofa. We like to lay on the floor a lot with our pups. We probably spend about the same amount of time on the floor as we do the sofa. I like sinking my toes into shag carpeting. It feels so nice to lay on too. The pups really like it. I like how they turn around three or four times before plopping down to rest. We could not find what we wanted until we looked for rugs for sale online. That was when we found the shag rug we wanted in the burnt orange color we had been searching for.

Our cabin style house is now complete with the different rugs we purchased from an online company that has rugs for sale. We bought a natural fiber rug for the dining area. It is very nice. Another favorite rug we bought is the wool one we have in the bedroom. That one is especially nice to step on when the weather is cold. Wool is such a great insulator. Continue reading →

Zyrtec Side Effects: Withdrawal Symptoms (Antihistamine Withdrawal)

Why Take Zyrtec?

What pushes us to take those little white pills? What are they good for?

Zyrtec (aka cetirizine hydrochloride) is a well-known antihistamine, others including Allegra, Benadryl, Claritin and Xyzal. When you experience an allergy or a mosquito bite, a histamine response is triggered inside your body. These proteins are released and dispersed to any inflammation, causing short-term aggravation like sneezing, watering eyes, itching, coughing or swelling.

Antihistamines, as their name suggests, suppress the histamines, temporarily relieving any aggravation that might accompany them.
Zyrtec Review

Antihistamines, despite the unhealthiness of their chemical nature, are quite useful. Let’s say you are allergic to dog dander and experience all the classic symptoms – runny nose, wheezing, itchy eyes, and maybe an outbreak of hives. If you must attend a family reunion at the house of a dog owner, all you need do is pop a pill and your symptoms are gone for the day. For another situation, if you have recently been attacked by a horde of mosquitoes, Zyrtec will decrease the itching and swelling to a tolerable level.

In the past, I have had success with Zyrtec in situations similar to the above. However, one must tread with caution; medical doctors seem to praise antihistamines, prescribing them for bug bites, allergies, hives, psoriasis and anything in between. While the drugs are useful on a short-term basis, they can become your nemesis in the long-term.

Years ago, I was diagnosed with eczema (which turned out to be the result of intestinal permeability, or Leaky Gut Syndrome), and was instructed to take Zyrtec by my allergist. The drug proved useful in the beginning, reducing the inflammation of the rash and decreasing the intensity of the itching. The pill was small and easy to take, requiring only one per day. I continued living, though unaware of a hidden danger.
Zyrtec Side Effects Guessing Game

Time went on. In fact, it went on for five grim months.

My condition began to worsen. The Zyrtec treatment became less and less effective, so I started to taper off, taking a pill every three days instead of every one or two. However, the eczema seemed to flare-up at random times … badly. The rash would be inflamed and raised from the skin, the itching unbearable, and skin flakes falling constantly. My lymph nodes became swollen, itchy and extremely painful. Wrinkles began to appear in my dry skin, making me appear ten years older. At one point, my condition became so intolerable that I skipped my college classes for weeks on end.

In my final week of college, trudging through final exams, I had a monumental realization. On a day when my condition flared, I could not stand it and took a single Zyrtec. At this point, I had been on a low dosage, tapering off regularly. To my surprise, within an hour, my itching and aggravation vanished. I was struck with the truth.
The Long-Term Explanation of Zyrtec Side Effects

After researching for hours, I confirmed my suspicions that the Zyrtec was no longer helping my condition. The drug was harming me.

I took an antihistamine for five months straight. Thinking about it now, a year later, it is obvious; my histamines were being suppressed for so long that any interruption in my Zyrtec treatment would trigger a response. Think of a dam, holding back a river; sooner or later, water must be let through. However, if the river is allowed to build up behind the dam, more water needs to be released. My histamines were forced to be suppressed for nearly half of a year, so any attempt to taper off would trigger a bodily response.
Zyrtec Side Effects: “Withdrawal” and Itch

Once I realized my mistake of staying on the drug, I quit cold turkey. This is where the infamous “Zyrtec itchies” overwhelmed my life. This magnitude of itching trumps any bout of bad itching ever experienced by a human being.

Within a week, the most unbearable, intolerable, intense itch overtook me; I felt as if I needed to scratch into my skin to reach my bones. I broke out in large hives. My lymph nodes swelled and throbbed. I scratched myself until I bled and red claw marks streaked my arms. I took on a widespread, red rash, like a blanket that covered the skin from head to toe. Terrible weeks passed this way, until gradually, the condition began to stabilize … and finally recede.

When confronted with the possibility of Zyrtec “withdrawal,” doctors stare dumbfounded; you cannot become addicted to an antihistamine. It is not, per se, an addiction; nevertheless, the histamine response is very similar to the classic drug withdrawal. My doctor prescribed predisone, which alleviated the symptoms for the duration of the withdrawal process.
The Final Verdict on Zyrtec Side Effects and Intestinal Permeability

The antihistamines stayed in my system for weeks after I had stopped taking them. It was, at most, two months before I could again rest easily without itching. The intestinal permeability was resolved later, very apparent that it was a separate condition from the withdrawal. Anyone who may be having doubtful thoughts about the withdrawal, take a look at this Zyrtec forum, where you can read hundreds of testimonials. You will be surprised.

I would not recommend Zyrtec to anyone with long-term allergies or conditions. For a day or two, the drug is harmless and helpful, but when taken for weeks or months, it becomes detrimental. Anyone with seasonal allergies or rashes (e.g. eczema, psoriasis, rosacea) should look into intestinal permeability.

There are many immune system boosters effective in improving allergies. However, the cause of 99% of chronic rashes are the result of intestinal permeability. There is a thin layer of cells that coats your intestinal walls, and this layer of cells controls 80% of your immune system. When this layer gets damaged in any way, your body starts to develop symptoms, such as severe autoimmune conditions. The damaging of that layer creates an extreme inflammatory and allergic response, which is the reason for all the allergies, eczema or psoriasis that you might have.

Take care when following a doctor’s advice. After all, they are there to treat, not cure. Zyrtec may be useful in treating the symptoms of histamine response, but getting to the root cause of the response should be your primary focus. In order to do that, you need to see a naturopathic doctor who knows about intestinal permeability. ONLY through healing of the gut lining can allergies and chronic rashes be cured.
Remedies for Zyrtec Side Effects

Here are several natural remedies that may help you cope with the Zyrtec side effects, primarily the itching.

Quercetin, a natural antihistamine that does no harm to your body
Calming herbal teas (Rooibos, Mint, Chamomile, Green, Ginger)
Vitamins and omegas (Vitamin A, Vitamin C, Omega-3)
White Willow Bark capsules [the natural base of Aspirin]
Topical Aloe Vera gels / Vitamin E gels
Essential Oils (Chamomile, Tea Tree, Geranium, Lavender, Eucalyptus)
Castor Oil, for applying to the skin
L-Glutamine (for healing intestinal permeability)
Cutting gluten and stress out of your life (to avoid damaging intestinal walls further)

Many of these agents act as antihistamines, the exceptions being the topical gels and oils. The teas, vitamins and capsules do inhibit histamine production to a certain point, but I felt that they aided my efforts to cope with the withdrawal. Quercetin is a great way to lessen the symptoms, as well. My own chronic rashes got 80% better within the first two months of taking quercetin daily. As of the day I am updating this (May 21, 2015), my skin is 99% better, all because I understand intestinal permeability and because I have started to heal myself.

Regardless of any advice and remedies, if you have antihistamine withdrawal, you have a huge chance of experiencing that same unbearable itch. It’s not guaranteed, but the probability is very high. I found that going cold turkey worked best; throw away ALL over-the-counter antihistamines in your house, as you will be tempted to take them to quell the itching. However, cold turkey might not be right for everyone, so taper off instead. Decrease your antihistamine consumption, and at the same time start taking quercetin to decrease the amount of itching you might experience.

If you get the itching, it is a process that you have to endure; however, no matter how unbearable the symptoms become, you must always remember that they are temporary. They will pass in time.

To your good health =)

How to Get Rid of a Cold Sore Fast: Home Remedies With Pictures

After a long weekend of heavy drinking in the sun and light sleeping for only a few hours a night, I knew my immune system was down. I wasn’t surprised when I woke up Monday morning with that familiar tingle. I decided to share my story, with photos, so you can see for yourself how quickly my method works to cure cold sores. View my more thorough descriptions and alternate cures on my cold sore hub.
Day 1, Morning

I woke up just feeling a slight tingle, and barely perceptible swelling. As you can see in the picture, my lip looked fine, and the virus was still under the skin. I slathered some L-Lysine ointment on my lip, threw the container in my purse, and left for work.
Day 1, Afternoon

As soon as I got to work, I pulled out the bottle of 500mg L-Lysine tablets I always keep in my desk drawer, for situations like this. I rationed out enough to take one every hour on the hour, and left them out on my desk so I wouldn’t forget. In reality, 4 tablets throughout the day would have been fine, and my body wasn’t absorbing most of the vitamin I was ingesting, but I like to get as much as possible to be safe. For lunch I ate a tuna sandwich with a hard-boiled egg, both foods that are high in l-lysine. I also had some mixed greens on the side, for the additional vitamins to boost my immune system. I kept my lip almost permanently slathered in the Basic Organics L-Lysine ointment I was using.

By late afternoon, a tiny bit of redness and swelling was beginning to show on my upper lip, but I felt my efforts were really working to contain the sore and keep it small.
Day 1, Night

When I got home, I made myself a dinner of lean chicken, cheese, and veggies- all foods that are great for battling a sore. (I avoided bread and pasta, caffeine, and chocolate.) Throughout the night I reapplied L-Lysine ointment once or twice. I stopped taking tablets, as I’d taken enough already during the day.

Before going to bed, I checked the mirror and noticed 3 small blisters had appeared. Two were clustered above my lip, and one larger one was at the very top of my lip. As described in my cold sore hub, I disinfected the point of a safety pin, and popped each blister. I dabbed up the white pus that came out with a clean paper towel, and immediately washed my hands and face with soap and water. The liquid that fills the blisters is the most contagious part of a cold sore, so make sure to disinfect after popping them.

Next, I dipped a Q-Tip in hydrogen peroxide. Because it is damaging to the healthy skin around the cold sore, you want to apply it very carefully, only to the sore. I’ve found a Q-Tip is the best way to apply it directly; using cotton balls or a tissue is generally less exact. I held the soaked Q-Tip over the sores for about a minute, letting them soak up the liquid. The sores will appear bright white after you’ve popped them and dabbed them with hydorgen peroxide, but that will go away in a few minutes.

My final step before going to bed was to apply some more L-Lysine ointment.

Because the sores had appeared, my main purpose in the regimen for the night was to dry out the blisters. Popping them and draining them had been the first step, and I used hydrogen peroxide as the second. I prefer hydrogen peroxide because it is safest for the skin compared to other options, and has the added benefit of disinfecting the now-open wound. Other options that can be used are a sliced clove of garlic or nail polish with acetone. Both can be extremely painful, and damage the healthy surrounding skin, but they will definitely dry that sucker out.
Day 2, Morning

By the time I woke up on Tuesday, the already-small sores had faded and reduced in size. Because they were so faded, I’ve pointed them out with arrows in the photo. I repeated the process of popping the blisters with a clean needle, washing them, and soaking them with hydrogen peroxide before leaving for work.
Day 2, Afternoon

On day two of the cold sore, the blisters had already formed, been popped, and were beginning to dry out. To help with the drying process I began using Campho-Phenique for Cold Sores. It does a great job of both numbing the pain and drying the blister. I reapplied it multiple times throughout the day, every few hours when I began to feel the pain again.

I continued taking L-Lysine tablets, although I probably only took 3-4 throughout the day. My lunch once again consisted of fish, eggs, and dairy, all of which have high l-lysine content. I used the L-Lysine ointment sparingly, because the majority of the time I was using the Campho-Phenique, but did apply the ointment to my surrounding lip and skin areas. Using so many products with drying actions will, obviously, dry out your skin, and the vasoline base of the Basic Organics ointment will help moisten the skin while continuing to heal it with its L-Lysine content.

As you can see in the photo, by the end of the afternoon the blister had dried out and fallen off, and all that was left was a red spot.
Day 3

By the morning of Day 3, the sores above my lip were completely faded, and all that was left was some scabbing from the sore on my lip. I kept it moist all day with a few applications of Neosporin, and used L-Lysine ointment to keep my lips from getting chapped.

At this point, all that’s left is waiting for the scab to fall off. Keeping it moisturized and clean will aid the most in this process. There are mixed reviews in the scientific community about Vitamin E oil- some say it speeds healing, and some say it actually hinders it. I have tried it in the past and never found it to help, so I stick with my simple L-Lysine ointment.
4th day of cold sore, almost gone
4th day of cold sore, almost gone | Source
Day 4

Morning of day 4, and all that’s left is a tiny red blemish! I’ll keep putting L-Lysine ointment on it until the red mark is completely gone, but I’d say that sucker’s pretty much gone!

Network Marketing – Creating A Residual Income!

Millions of people surf the worldwide web daily looking for new ways to create income so they can both pay their bills and hopefully have some money left over to do other things. Some look to type at home or other types of data entry, while other choose rebate processing or some other form of work at home job. Yet another group look to build Home Based Businesses that utilize the Internet to reach millions of people daily. Network marketing is probably the most popular type of Home Based Business because of the residual income that can be created. What it boils down to is other business owners helping new business owners develop their online business. When they help others succeed they help increase their overall profit.

One example is if you are buying a product in larger quantities you get a better price. Well the difference between the regular wholesale price and the increased quantity pricing would be the extra income your sponsor would make. This would also be the extra income you would earn when you help others succeed. The more volume as a group the more everyone makes. It encourages you to help other people so you can create a nice long-term residual income. It’s a people helping people business.

You might say well I don’t have time to help people every day. My answer is don’t have to! You can set up a helpful website that gives example and teaches people what they need to do on a step-by-step basis. You do the work once and then your affiliates can access if for free whenever and as long as they choose to do so. It helps them and it helps you build a bigger business.

One of the things I have found helpful to others is to break down each area into small steps so an individual can go at their pace simply finishing one step at a time. The first thing you know they are reaching their goals in short order and helping others. The other thing I personally do, when possible, is let my downline affiliates use my self-help pages for their downline. Think about it prevents them from having to do all of the work over, reduces their work load and speeds up the process for them to be successful. It works out great for everyone.

It is very important when looking at Network Marketing companies that you do your research, find good companies but also look for people who will help you succeed. I recommend using a website like mine, but not necessarily mine that has done some level of research for you.

Take your time and enjoy the journey. Keep your goals in front of you at all times and envision how you will spend the extra money you Home Based Business creates. Please feel free to read both this article or one of my many others by visiting my link in the resource box below. I always enjoy getting emails pertaining to my articles or my site. Your feedback is important to me.

Overcome Male Infertility — How Conventional Medication Helps To Treat Hypospadias And Epispadias

As we mentioned in previous article, conventional medicine plays an important role and most of the time, it is the first treatment for a couple who for what ever reason cam not conceive after 1 year of unprotected sexual intercourse or can not carry the pregnancy to full term. With the advance of medical technology, Some infertility are caused by structure problem and can be corrected through surgery. In this article, we will discuss how conventional surgery helps to treat hypospadias and epispadias

I. Definition
These are congenital birth defect conditions, where the opening of the penis is either on the under side or upper side of the penis, leading ejaculation malfunction.

II. Causes
1. Medication
Medication antihistamine loratadine is taken early in pregnancy might cause hypospadias.
2. Occupation
Certain occupation where the mother exposed to certain chemical may disrupt the endocrine system, leading to prevalence of hypospadias to their offspring.
3, Bladder problem
Epispadias may be caused by bladder fissure extending into the urethra and becoming an opening in the upper surface of the penis.

II. How conventional surgery helps to treat hypospadias and epispadias
These types of condition can be reversed by surgery.
1. Hypospadias surgery
In males with hypospadias, one surgery usually is sufficient to repair the defect. By using the a flap of skin to construct or extend the urethra, your doctor creates a new opening and the opening is closed.

2. Epispadias surgery
Repairing an epispadias epispadias is normally done in the early childhood with penile straightening by resection of the chordee and creation of a new penis penning with caliber and urethroplasty to prevent any probe when the penis is erected surgery. For these defects is successful 70 to 80% of the time.

IV. Risks
Surgical risks, since surgery is required.

How Does Having A Positive Mindset Change Lives

When it comes to goal setting, it is essential that you have a positive mindset.
It is this positive mind set that will see you through all the expected and unexpected obstacles that crop up along the way. Having faith in your abilities is also essential when it comes to taking the necessarily actions on your path to success.

Hence, we see this everyday in people who are considered headstrong and determined. Their self-belief carries them along. Self motivation can be a brilliant thing as long as they can keep there feet on the ground.

A negative mind set is associated with low self-esteem and low self-confidence. Examples include fear of failure. Or self doubts which renders the individual paralyzed and unable to make even simple decisions.

Help would be needed to turn this around. Whether that helps is in the form of self-help or assisted help from a qualified or experienced counsellor. This would be up to the individual.

Knowing help is need is the first and major obstacle when you are trying to create a positive mindset.

Having defined a step-by-step action plan is essential. Not only will you see where you are going. You will also be able to see where you’ve been. With every successful and completed step, no matter how small, would be an enormous boost the individuals’ self-esteem and self-confidence. With each actualized goal, the momentum builds and the individual is motivated onwards to the next step. Then it’s onto the next goal, and the next.

It’s a bit like a baby learning to walk. First the baby has to learn how to crawl before she can stand, and then learn how to balance when standing before she can walk, and learn how to walk without holding onto things before she can run. Baby steps. One step at a time. One task at a time. One goal at a time. Keeping focused is a must.

It is inevitable that there will be set backs along the way. But they would not seem so dramatic when compared to a row of successes. Gradually the negative mindset would be transformed into a positive mindset, raised self-esteem and raised self-confidence.

This is very powerful stuff. It can and has turned lives around for the better.

Self-Esteem Self-Help Programmes

There are still not that many self-help programmes for self-esteem on the market, but fortunately, awareness about self-esteem is increasing and the number of self-esteem self-help programmes are increasing too. In order to help you to decide which programme to choose I will write about some different aspects that can be good to keep in mind when you are looking for a self-esteem self-help programme.

First of all, you need to be aware of what it is that you want to get out of the self-esteem home study course or self-esteem distance course. Do you want to know why your self-esteem has become as it is today? Do you want learn practical self-esteem exercises? Do you prefer writing exercises? Do you want to learn about the different aspects of your self-esteem and about which aspect that is most beneficial for you to focus on? Once you know exactly what it is that you want to get out of the self-help programme you can start to evaluate whether the specific programme that you are looking at will fulfil your wishes. Some programmes, such as those in the “Self-Esteem Toolkit”-series that I have created, provide a mixture of all of these things. Compare the programmes to make sure that you get the mixture that you want.

You also need to decide in which way you would like to learn? For example, if you like learning from videos, my 10 week distance course in self-esteem would be good. If you like doing pen and paper exercises, then one of the Self-Esteem Toolkits would be better. Also, do you want your programme to include personal one-to-one support or do you want to do it all anonymously on your own?

Different self-esteem programmes are created for different lifestyles. For example, when I created my self-esteem programmes, I made sure to include one “for busy people”. This “self-esteem toolkit ” mostly contains audio files that can be listened to on your way to work, while you’re working out in the gym, while you’re cooking etc. It also contains portable objects that you can keep in your pocket and use whenever you have a spare moment. If you are working at home or have plenty of time, you may want to choose another programme in which you will get more physical papers to read or other materials that you cannot bring with you so easily.

Finally, different self-esteem programmes are suitable for different people. There is not one self-esteem self-help programme that is best for all. One size doesn’t fit all – not when it comes to raising your self-esteem. Some of my self-esteem coaching clients love raising their self-esteem through interacting with others in group coaching sessions. Others prefer personal coaching. Some people want to do it entirely on their own. They buy the book The Self-Esteem Toolbox, the Self-Esteem Game, or one of the Self-Esteem Toolkit home study packages. To get want you need you have to figure out which is the best method for you.

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Self-Improvement: 3 Self-Help Measures

Making efforts to improve one-self is a very personal and conscious choice. The human potential is infinite. Growing and developing is an individual goal. As far as my knowledge goes, all successful persons from Albert Einstein to Bill Gates have continuously focused and strived hard to achieve their ambitions. To become a better person it is imperative to grow and develop constantly. Browsing through self-improvement sites and arriving at this page is in itself taking the first step towards trying to improve your-self. Congratulations! And read further to become a better individual.

The journey of self improvement does not stop with just one or a few achievements. Pursuing active growth processes is the quality of a true winner. Great people whether scientists or musicians or creative people keep saying – “I am still learning.” This phrase is quite common in people in their sixties/ seventies/ eighties. Younger adults are more head strong and are hesitant to be humble.

Being an academic professional for more than a decade and a writer, my experience suggests the following three self-help measures to improve self –

1. SELF – ESTEEM: Self esteem can be defined as the ‘feeling about self’. It is generally influenced by ones perceptions, thought process and experiences. Self esteem is nurtured right from childhood and shaped through different phases of life. Good experiences backed by close and strong relations with kith and kin positively build our esteem. While criticism or teasing can have a negative impact.

Higher self esteem is the driving force to achieving success in life. However, everyone is not fortunate to have an inborn quality of high self esteem. It needs to be built with conscious effort. The first step towards developing a positive self esteem is to feel great about oneself and begin with the task of setting a goal for oneself. The feeling of ‘it is not my cup of tea’ or ‘maybe I cannot do it’ is a setback. Delete such phrases from the mind. Great achievers have stumbled and fallen before claiming a name for themselves. Apart from a positive attitude, extension of self-imposed limitations and commitment are steps in furthering the esteem process. Inspite of hurdles march ahead aiming at the goal and pat your-self with each forward step. This definitely will boost your spirit. (BELIEVE IN YOUR-SELF)

2. SELF – MOTIVATION: Once the first step of believing in oneself is taken, the second step of self improvement is self-motivation. Motivation is a force that drives one to achieve success. It is an action taken in leaps and bounds to diminish distance from goal. Motivation is both internal and external. Internal motivation is an innate force that is intangible and permanent. External motivation relies largely on perks and incentives and is short-term. Complacency is the greatest hurdle to self motivation. A self satisfied person does not grow further and infact reaches a dead end.

Motivation needs to be fuelled constantly to achieve success. Taking up responsibility and being recognized for that are great motivating factors. Avoid ambiguity and confusion, instead focus on the goal. Devise ways to achieve the ultimate goal. Remember action in a particular direction is effective than aimless action. Develop achievable, time bound strategies that lead to fulfilling aspirations and aims. (ACTIVATE YOURSELF)

3. SELF – CONFIDENCE: The final step in self improvement is boosting ones self-confidence. The true qualities of a self-confident person can be summed up as – setting goals, committing to achieve them, taking responsibilities, bearing the consequences as well as the fruits of success.

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Creating The Ultimate Self-help Healing Session

There are times when we wish to do our healing work with a counselor or other professional, and there are times when self-help better meets our needs.

Whether you use energy work, journaling, meditation, or any other self-healing approach, there are a number of things that you can do to ensure that you achieve the most growth and healing possible, from your self-healing sessions.

1.) Choose a focus.

Begin by choosing an issue that you wish to heal.

If you struggle with identifying specific areas you want to focus upon, you may find it helpful to keep a small notebook with you. Whenever you notice a pattern, issue or concern that you would like to feel better about, quickly jot a note down to yourself so that you will remember it later.

Going through personal journals you keep or emails you have sent to others – is another way that you can identify areas you would like to heal.

2.) Make your healing a priority.

Set aside the time preferably regularly where you will focus upon your healing. Write it into your schedule so that you make a commitment to setting this time aside and do not forget.

Alternatively, build self-healing work into your day: a 15 minute healing session in the morning when you first wake up, at the end of the day, or at any other time that feels right to you, can be a wonderful way to get yourself moving forward and feeling better.

3.) Give yourself the time and space you need.

One of the reasons that people often find that they get more out of healing sessions guided by a professional is simply that they focus much more deeply during those sessions. This is partially because a space is created in which outside distractions are not permitted.

Whether you choose to set aside an hour or a smaller amount of time, create a comfortable space in which to do your self-healing work. Find somewhere that you can sit or lie down comfortably. Make an effort to minimize distractions turn the phone, television or computer off, and ensure that you have the time that you need to accomplish the personal work you would like to get done.

4.) Have everything you need, close at hand.

This may include Kleenex, a glass of water, a warm soft blanket, or pen and paper to write down thoughts or insights that come up during the process that you wish to address or make note of.

Have any healing resources that you have found to be beneficial nearby. If you have a self-help book or journal you find to be particularly helpful, you may want to refer to it. Pictures of loved ones or of peaceful scenes of times and places that you felt loved and safe, may also be beneficial.

5.) Plan to do something nurturing afterwards.

Part of healing involves experiencing greater love and compassion for oneself. You can begin to put this in motion both during and immediately after your healing session.

This is particularly important if you have chosen to focus upon healing something that feels big” or particularly painful. In all likelihood if you stick with the process, you will feel much calmer, better, and more peaceful than you would have thought possible prior to the healing session beginning.

However, the biggest obstacle that people sometimes find with self-healing work is that if they start to feel upset, they may suddenly decide to stop the process. They suddenly find themselves distracted, or they decide the issue is too big” to tackle alone.

If the issue is too big, seek professional support as needed. However, in most cases simply taking a moment and reassuring yourself, using any self-help skills you have found particularly helpful, and focusing upon your breathing while thinking comforting thoughts or using helpful imagery, will help you to quickly move past the current upset.

Let yourself know that if upset is encountered, you can handle it and move through it gently. Make the decision and commitment to yourself to do this, so that this moment will be the last time that this incident, issue or experience, feels so upsetting to you.

You owe yourself the greater peace that you will feel if you stay on track with the process. It can be easier to stick with a self-healing session if you are aware that you will be taking really good care of yourself afterwards whether this is by going for a walk, calling a friend, reading a comforting book, or watching a favourite TV show or movie.

6.) Be kind to yourself.

In the absence of a supportive professional, be a support to yourself. If you booked a session with a therapist and during it she or he criticized you or gave you negative messages about your past or present difficulties or your likelihood to heal from them would you feel helped by that? Would you be interested in going back to do more work with them again? Not likely!

During your healing process, treat yourself the way that you would expect or want a friend, counselor, or therapist to treat you. Practice seeing yourself with compassion and understanding.

7.) If you can not – or will not – set aside specific periods of time to work on self-healing, take full advantage of any hidden moments that you do have.

Not every self-healing session needs to be done with the level of detail and care that is described above. Significant, profound healing can occur simply while going for a walk and focusing upon healing thoughts, affirmations and imagery.

Making it a habit to give yourself loving and compassionate messages on a regular basis, as you go about your day, can go a long way towards altering your overall outlook and emotional state.

8.) Know your limitations.

If it feels unsafe to you to process a particular personal issue on your own or if you are currently feeling completely overwhelmed or unable to cope in general it may be a greater act of self-help to make the decision to ask for assistance with your personal healing work. This help may come in the form of a trusted and supportive friend, support group, or skilled professional.

Know that there is a middle ground between going it entirely alone and being in therapy”. You can choose to do mostly self-healing if that feels right to you, and still seek professional assistance occasionally, whether this is once a month, a few times each year, or simply as a one time session.

Even those people who enjoy the benefit of regular counseling or therapy sessions will get the most value and benefit from that work, and will they further accelerate their progress and healing by working on their concerns between professionally facilitated sessions.