Nice Rugs for Those Spots in the House Where You Want Your Feet to Feel Cozy

We wanted a thick shaggy rug for in front of the sofa. We like to lay on the floor a lot with our pups. We probably spend about the same amount of time on the floor as we do the sofa. I like sinking my toes into shag carpeting. It feels so nice to lay on too. The pups really like it. I like how they turn around three or four times before plopping down to rest. We could not find what we wanted until we looked for rugs for sale online. That was when we found the shag rug we wanted in the burnt orange color we had been searching for.

Our cabin style house is now complete with the different rugs we purchased from an online company that has rugs for sale. We bought a natural fiber rug for the dining area. It is very nice. Another favorite rug we bought is the wool one we have in the bedroom. That one is especially nice to step on when the weather is cold. Wool is such a great insulator. Continue reading “Nice Rugs for Those Spots in the House Where You Want Your Feet to Feel Cozy”

Why Reading More Self Help Books Won’t Bring You Success

Are you a self help junkie? Do you buy and read hundreds of self help books? Do you own dozens of motivational CDs? Are you still seeking the elusive success that has been promised to you?

Is going into debt for self help a good investment?

I have met people who do; people who think that the more expensive a seminar, the greater value they will get from it. Some of these people have even gone into debt so they can ‘invest in themselves’. While I heartily agree that personal development and growth is the most valuable thing you can do with your time, I’m not sure that reading another self help book is always the way to do it.

Don’t get me wrong, I think self help books are wonderful. I own a few dozen myself. I avidly read (and even summarise) them. They nearly always have a few precious gems you can use in your own life.

Is there a quick fix?

I have always been an observer of human behaviour and there is one behaviour trait I have noticed in recent years that is helping to fuel the massive growth of the self help industry. What trait is that? It is the desire to have a quick fix; to take a pill (or equivalent) and have our troubles go away. Rather than changing our lifestyle or our thinking, we would rather ask for an aid that required no effort on our part to fix our troubles. We can pay a lot of money for these quick fixes so that we avoid doing the hard yards of internal awareness and insight and the pain they can bring.

Where self help books offer value

And they are valuable in one very important area of personal development… they can change your mindset. They can help you to find a better way to see, think, feel and be. These are very valuable insights to have. I question whether, on their own, they are sufficient to bring about success.

I will give you an example. Although I have both Commerce and Law degrees to my name, I found that there were many gaps in my knowledge when I began running my own business. To fill these gaps I read book after book on how to successfully run a business and make money. They were probably all great books, but none of them ever answered the questions I had. They might tell me how to generically write the copy for an advertisement, but not how to write it specifically for my business. They might tell me the things to look for when hiring people, but never the specific things I would need to look for in my industry. They might tell me how to get finance for my business, but never the inside knowledge that would make my bank view my application more favourably.

What you are going to have to do to experience success…

If self help and other books didn’t give me the answers that enabled my success, what did?

There were four things that eventually brought success into my life as a business woman:

The realization that the only person who could do it WAS ME. No-one else was going to be able to achieve my success for me. There was no magic pill I could take, no book I could read, no course I could attend that would bring about the changes inside me that would be required. The only person who could do that was me.

Realizing it was TAKING ACTION that would lead to experience and then to knowledge. Sitting and reading wasn’t going to get me the answers I needed. I have taken lots and lots of action. I have succeeded as often as I have failed. And of both the successes and the failures along the way… I learned a lot more from the failures then I did from the successes. The failures showed me what not to do next time, what not to say, what not to pay for… so that next time I was wiser about how I did it.

NEVER GIVING UP. On my journey to success I have what I now call ‘flexible commitment’. I am very committed to achieving the outcomes I set myself… but I do it in a very flexible way. If what I am doing isn’t working, then I am now flexible enough to try doing it a different way. I am also flexible enough to wait until the time is right and then pounce with my new idea. I stay true to the targets I set myself, but I go about achieving them in a less rigid and more flexible way than I did previously. If bashing my head against the wall isn’t working, then I start looking for a door.

Having an EXCELLENCE BUDDY. I found myself a mentor who I have regular conversations with. The excellent thing about my mentor is that I mentor them in return. We call ourselves ‘excellence buddies’ and we hold each other to a higher standard than we would if we were operating on our own. We bounce ideas off each other and hold each other accountable for achieving the targets we set out to achieve. Knowing that she is going to ring me at the end of the week and see how I am going is sometimes the greatest motivation in the world to get the job done.

Is there any value in self help books and self help courses?

Absolutely! There is still value in self help books and self help courses. However, they are not the total solution to any challenge you have. The final key in the solution has to come from you, from a desire inside you to make change and take the action needed.

I still attend personal development programs. In fact I run them myself and I love them.

I am never too arrogant to believe that I know it all and there is nothing someone else can teach me. There is always a new insight to be gained, a quicker way to get a self understanding or a new perspective on an issue.

But both when I run personal development seminars for others (and when I attend them myself) I am very aware that you will need to take action after you leave the seminar to fully incorporate the changes into your life. I know that I need to walk out of the course and take action if I wish to achieve success.

In summary I guess I am saying, that unless you are prepared to take the actions necessary to make change in your life, then save your money and stop going to self help courses and reading self help books.

If, however, you are prepared to take the action needed, then self help books and self help courses are an incredible way to get the skills, insights and motivation you need to really get your life moving towards success and reaching your potential.

Who Needs Self-Help?

A lot of people flee from the term “self help” whenever they see it somewhere, for example in a bookstore, in a magazine or on the internet. They wouldn’t want to be one of “those self help people”.

The reason for this is that there are a lot of prejudices against self help like “Self help is for people who are not able to handle their lives”, “Self help is for bored old women who don’t get laid”, “Self help is a big lie from people who want to take your money” or “Self help is for failures”.

None of that has really to do with what self help is about. If you look at the term “self help” and forget about all the clichés and pictures in your head, you get a more accurate picture of what self help really means: Self help is for people who want to help themselves.

This is of course a pretty broad definition. What do those people want to help themselves with?

Most of the time they want to help themselves

– to be happy

– to find peace

– to be motivated

– to attract and maintain a happy relationship

– to have a healthy social life

– to find a career they love

– to find out what they want

– to be more productive

– to be financially independent

– to spend more time doing what they love

– to be healthy and fit

– to practice spirituality

– to get a deep understanding of the world

Self help is less about specific skills which you would need for a job, for example, but about life in general. Maybe that’s why self help has such a bad reputation: People think that you got to have serious problems in life in order to get interested in it (and boy, there must be something wrong with you if you got problems like that… ).

In fact, I remember a conversation with someone who believed my website was for people with “problems” but not for average people. But think about it, everybody has “problems”: We want to have things and don’t know how to get them. We want to feel a certain way but don’t know how to get there. We want to be in a certain situation but we aren’t there yet.

Self help does nothing else than say: “Hey there! You can help yourself and solve this problem! – so these are my suggestions:… ”

Basically, self help makes you aware of your responsibility: It’s you who can solve your problems! You don’t need to wait until the circumstances change, until your parents say yes or until your lover takes you back. You can be happy right now. You can get what you want.

Self-Help Scammers

Of course there are people who just want to make money off our misery and are not genuinely interested in helping us. But that’s not a problem that’s specific to self help. You can find those people everywhere.

If you’re turned off by self help because you think you’re getting scammed, there’s a good way to dissect between scammers and experts (besides researching the subject): If someone promises you results for nothing (no serious investment of time or self discipline… ), he’s probably a scammer.

Self help is not magic. It requires usually lots of work over a greater amount of time. Ask anyone who’s had success in this area. Most people have worked years (not 2-3 but more like 5-10) before society would define them as “successful”. On the inside it’s often different: High quality self help material is able to give you new ideas that will change your perspective on the world and your life forever. So even if self help doesn’t make you rich in the first year, it may very well motivate you to become it.

So if you can see self help for what it is, there is a chance that it might change your life in a lot of ways – as long as you get in touch with high quality material. It can help you no matter who you are or where you are in your life: By pointing out that you’re responsible and by offering solutions. It only depends on whether you accept that help or not.

Self Help Books – The Benefits

Despite the opinionated Doomsayers who have hardly anything good to say about Self Help Books, the self-help publishing industry is worth over £1 billion each year… regardless of this fact. Self-help books are also known as “self-improvement” books, a term that is the modern naming of the term ‘self-help’.

I for one am a great advocate of Self Help Books. I have quite a collection. I have read pretty much all of them and some of them several times over. They are full of yellow highlights and notes now, outlining thoughts which mean a lot to me. They have seen me through some upsetting times, giving me inspiration and have helped me meet challenges head on. They can help you get to grips with your most provoking of problems, help you improve your relationships, work on your problematic love life & business, keep you on track and fully focussed, motivate, challenge you to do better things, help you move out of comfort zones, instruct you how not to procrastinate, help you deal with stress, certain illnesses, teen angst, anger management, body language, confidence… and the list goes on.

Several of the books I have read over the years were written a very long time ago, ‘The Magic Of Thinking Big’, ‘Think & Grow Rich’ for instance. Lots of people, some highly successful people (even me) have stated that these two books alone have dramatically improved their life. There are of course many people who say that they would never need a Self Help Book and wouldn’t be seen near one. Some of these people could be absolutely right but I am willing to bet that even the most successful of us have, at some point or another, read at least one book.

These are some of the books I have on my shelves:

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People – Stephen Covey

The Magic of Thinking Big – David Schwartz

Wink – Roger Hamilton

The Greatest Salesman in the World – Og Mandino

Think and Grow Rich – Napoleon Hill

As a Man Thinketh – James Allen

How to Win Friends and Influence People – Dale Carnegie

Who Moved My Cheese – Spencer Johnson

Polar Bear Pirates – Adrian Webster

To recommend and buy:

The Strangest Secret – Earl Nightingale

Rich Dad Poor Dad – Robert Kiyosaki

Cashflow Quadrant – Robert Kiyosaki

Awaken the Giant Within – Anthony Robbins

During the earlier years of the 20th Century, Self Help Books fell into a niche category but later on they became more valued and popular generally. In the past 50 years or so, the most unread of Self Help Books has become culturally important, a fact which is now reluctantly admitted by the doomsayers! Some of the most hardened of critics would say that despite any disbelief in these books, we can’t dismiss them completely.

Electronic Books (eBooks)

With modern technology, the eBook has become probably one of the most popular methods of marketing and publishing books. Self publishing has never been easier. On the other hand, finding and buying a book has never been a difficult task. The eBook comes in different guises and is designed to be read in different ways. With the advent of the ‘Tablet’ and ‘Kindle’ as we all know them, locating and reading an eBook is now incredibly simple… and quite inexpensive too. Some other types of eBook are simply the subject wrapped up in a PDF file which can be simply read on a tablet or a laptop. eBooks, especially Self Help ones are available from so many different sources, it becomes quite a headache comparing and choosing. I have been operating a couple of Self Help eBook web sites over the years, which sell a wide range of inexpensive books and are obtained by a simple download after the purchase stage. I write some of them myself and others I have been recommended or researched.

I make eBooks available to my Customers to progress them with their learning. These books tend to withstand the test of time and have helped open up new ways of thinking, doing, working, loving etc. They are a valuable asset to ones’ virtual book shelves. Self-help books often concentrate on romance, for people who are experiencing problems with divorce, marriage breakdowns, girl & boyfriends, etc. However there are hundreds more out there, covering an enormous range of subjects. I even have some on Fly Fishing, Cat Care and would you believe it… Candle making!

But seriously… Self Help Books often publicise themselves as being able to fill the reader with self-awareness and performance, including contentment with life in general. They often say that they may be able to help you achieve this more quickly than with standard therapies. This is of course up to the reader to decide. If, when having read a Self Help Book, you feel that it has helped and given you a new target in life, increased your confidence, built a better relationship… or whatever you set out to achieve… then the book was worth every penny.

Self-Improvement: 3 Self-Help Measures

Making efforts to improve one-self is a very personal and conscious choice. The human potential is infinite. Growing and developing is an individual goal. As far as my knowledge goes, all successful persons from Albert Einstein to Bill Gates have continuously focused and strived hard to achieve their ambitions. To become a better person it is imperative to grow and develop constantly. Browsing through self-improvement sites and arriving at this page is in itself taking the first step towards trying to improve your-self. Congratulations! And read further to become a better individual.

The journey of self improvement does not stop with just one or a few achievements. Pursuing active growth processes is the quality of a true winner. Great people whether scientists or musicians or creative people keep saying – “I am still learning.” This phrase is quite common in people in their sixties/ seventies/ eighties. Younger adults are more head strong and are hesitant to be humble.

Being an academic professional for more than a decade and a writer, my experience suggests the following three self-help measures to improve self –

1. SELF – ESTEEM: Self esteem can be defined as the ‘feeling about self’. It is generally influenced by ones perceptions, thought process and experiences. Self esteem is nurtured right from childhood and shaped through different phases of life. Good experiences backed by close and strong relations with kith and kin positively build our esteem. While criticism or teasing can have a negative impact.

Higher self esteem is the driving force to achieving success in life. However, everyone is not fortunate to have an inborn quality of high self esteem. It needs to be built with conscious effort. The first step towards developing a positive self esteem is to feel great about oneself and begin with the task of setting a goal for oneself. The feeling of ‘it is not my cup of tea’ or ‘maybe I cannot do it’ is a setback. Delete such phrases from the mind. Great achievers have stumbled and fallen before claiming a name for themselves. Apart from a positive attitude, extension of self-imposed limitations and commitment are steps in furthering the esteem process. Inspite of hurdles march ahead aiming at the goal and pat your-self with each forward step. This definitely will boost your spirit. (BELIEVE IN YOUR-SELF)

2. SELF – MOTIVATION: Once the first step of believing in oneself is taken, the second step of self improvement is self-motivation. Motivation is a force that drives one to achieve success. It is an action taken in leaps and bounds to diminish distance from goal. Motivation is both internal and external. Internal motivation is an innate force that is intangible and permanent. External motivation relies largely on perks and incentives and is short-term. Complacency is the greatest hurdle to self motivation. A self satisfied person does not grow further and infact reaches a dead end.

Motivation needs to be fuelled constantly to achieve success. Taking up responsibility and being recognized for that are great motivating factors. Avoid ambiguity and confusion, instead focus on the goal. Devise ways to achieve the ultimate goal. Remember action in a particular direction is effective than aimless action. Develop achievable, time bound strategies that lead to fulfilling aspirations and aims. (ACTIVATE YOURSELF)

3. SELF – CONFIDENCE: The final step in self improvement is boosting ones self-confidence. The true qualities of a self-confident person can be summed up as – setting goals, committing to achieve them, taking responsibilities, bearing the consequences as well as the fruits of success.

Learning and growing doesn’t stop with age or the number of achievements. It is the zeal to do more and achieve more keeps a self confident person alive. Set aside failures and pitfalls and move ahead with a strong conviction. Tread on hurdles with a positive outlook. (ACCELERATE YOURSELF)

Self-Esteem Self-Help Programmes

There are still not that many self-help programmes for self-esteem on the market, but fortunately, awareness about self-esteem is increasing and the number of self-esteem self-help programmes are increasing too. In order to help you to decide which programme to choose I will write about some different aspects that can be good to keep in mind when you are looking for a self-esteem self-help programme.

First of all, you need to be aware of what it is that you want to get out of the self-esteem home study course or self-esteem distance course. Do you want to know why your self-esteem has become as it is today? Do you want learn practical self-esteem exercises? Do you prefer writing exercises? Do you want to learn about the different aspects of your self-esteem and about which aspect that is most beneficial for you to focus on? Once you know exactly what it is that you want to get out of the self-help programme you can start to evaluate whether the specific programme that you are looking at will fulfil your wishes. Some programmes, such as those in the “Self-Esteem Toolkit”-series that I have created, provide a mixture of all of these things. Compare the programmes to make sure that you get the mixture that you want.

You also need to decide in which way you would like to learn? For example, if you like learning from videos, my 10 week distance course in self-esteem would be good. If you like doing pen and paper exercises, then one of the Self-Esteem Toolkits would be better. Also, do you want your programme to include personal one-to-one support or do you want to do it all anonymously on your own?

Different self-esteem programmes are created for different lifestyles. For example, when I created my self-esteem programmes, I made sure to include one “for busy people”. This “self-esteem toolkit ” mostly contains audio files that can be listened to on your way to work, while you’re working out in the gym, while you’re cooking etc. It also contains portable objects that you can keep in your pocket and use whenever you have a spare moment. If you are working at home or have plenty of time, you may want to choose another programme in which you will get more physical papers to read or other materials that you cannot bring with you so easily.

Finally, different self-esteem programmes are suitable for different people. There is not one self-esteem self-help programme that is best for all. One size doesn’t fit all – not when it comes to raising your self-esteem. Some of my self-esteem coaching clients love raising their self-esteem through interacting with others in group coaching sessions. Others prefer personal coaching. Some people want to do it entirely on their own. They buy the book The Self-Esteem Toolbox, the Self-Esteem Game, or one of the Self-Esteem Toolkit home study packages. To get want you need you have to figure out which is the best method for you.

Need Some Self Esteem Self Help? – 3 Self Esteem Self Help Tips

If you are looking for self esteem self help then look no further! Self esteem is basically our self concept of, and how how we view ourselves. Many people have a very poor image of themselves and this can result in self esteem problem. The following advice is a series of tips that when used together will bring you to a much better place, bursting with self esteem and experiencing life as you never have before!

Need Some Self Esteem Self Help? – 3 Self Esteem Self Help Tips

1) Seek Approval From Within – So many causes of low self esteem are due to people seeking approval from others. This is not good, in fact it is terrible! If you do then you are giving other people the power to control how you feel, i don’t know about you but just the thought of that makes me feel horrible! You need to learn how to seek approval from only yourself, and that it does not matter what other people think of you. This is very basic but important self esteem self help.

2) Push Your Comfort Zone – Some of the most pertinent self esteem self help, as well as life long advice i could give you is push your comfort zone till the day you die. Be willing to take a risk and do something you are uncertain about or afraid of doing. Your self esteem will benefit greatly from this as this is pushing your current boundaries and achieving what you could not before, and as the old saying goes, who dares wins.

3) Follow Your own Compass – Find out what your passions in life are….and follow them! If you are stuck in a boring job and feeling no excitement for life then of course you will have low self esteem. By discovering your purpose, the things that excite you, and doing them then THAT is when you will start to get massive boosts in self esteem and happiness. Follow your compass, that little voice inside your head as it is always right.

I know that if you are after self esteem self help then please follow the information above as it will really help!

Although i may be happy now and have a very satisfying life this was not always the case. Several years ago i had terribly low self esteem and was almost diagnosed with depression, it was one of the bleakest times of my life and one that almost brings tears to my eyes as i write this. There was however one quality self-esteem self help [] program out there which may very well have saved my life. If you feel you need some additional quality advice on regaining your self esteem then i would recommend [], as it has personally helped me out of a real rough situation.

What Is Self Help All About

The way to solve a most of your problems is to face them yourselves. This is the case most of the time but we always look for others to help just because we think we aren’t capable to deal with our own problems. Self help is a great technique to overcome troubles in your life!

What is self help?

Self-help often utilizes publicly available information or support groups where people in similar situations join together. From early examples in self-driven legal practice and home-spun advice, the connotations of the phrase have spread and often apply particularly to education, business, psychology and psychotherapy, commonly distributed through the popular genre of self-help books. According to the APA Dictionary of Psychology, potential benefits of self-help groups that professionals may not be able to provide include friendship, emotional support, experiential knowledge, identity, meaningful roles, and a sense of belonging.

What are these self help groups about?

Self-help/mutual aid support groups are informal networks of individuals who share a common experience or issue. Members get together to share support. The primary focus of self-help is emotional support, practical support and information exchange.Self-Help/Mutual Aid is a process of sharing common experience, situations or problems. Self-help is participatory in nature and involves getting help, giving help and learning to help yourself as well as sharing knowledge and experience. There is no charge to participate, although a nominal donation to cover expenses is sometimes requested.

How do these groups work?

People come together in groups around any common experience. A listing in your community might include the following types of groups: Abuse, Addictions, Bereavement, Body Image, Cancer, Caregiving, Disability, Employment Related, Ethnocultural, Family/Parenting, HIV/AIDS, Men, Mental Health, Physical Health, Relationships, Seniors, Sexuality, Women, Youth, and more.Self-help, or self-improvement, is a self-guided improvement economically, intellectually, or emotionally often with a substantial psychological basis. There are many different self-help movements and each has its own focus, techniques, associated beliefs, proponents and in some cases, leaders. Self-help culture, particularly Twelve-Step culture, has provided some of our most robust new language: recovery, dysfunctional families, and, of course, codependency.

Self-help initiatives are run by and for participants, meet on an ongoing basis, are voluntary in nature and are open to new members. The primary focus of self-help is emotional support, practical support and information exchange.

Who belongs To these groups?

Groups associated with health conditions may consist of patients and caregivers. As well as featuring long-time members sharing experiences, these health groups can become lobby groups and clearing-houses for educational material. Those who help themselves by learning about health problems can be said to exemplify self-help, while self-help groups can be seen more as peer-to-peer support.

The basics about Self help/mutual aid.

Self-help/mutual aid support groups are informal networks of individuals who share a common experience or issue. Members get together to share support. The primary focus of self-help is emotional support, practical support and information exchange.

Self-Help/Mutual Aid is a process of sharing common experience, situations or problems. Self-help is participatory in nature and involves getting help, giving help and learning to help yourself as well as sharing knowledge and experience. There is no charge to participate, although a nominal donation to cover expenses is sometimes requested. Self-help initiatives are run by and for participants, meet on an ongoing basis, are voluntary in nature and are open to new members. The primary focus of self-help is emotional support, practical support and information exchange.

Ongoing groups from A to Z

People come together in groups around any common experience. A listing in your community might include the following types of groups: Abuse, Addictions, Bereavement, Body Image, Cancer, Caregiving, Disability, Employment Related, Ethnocultural, Family/Parenting, HIV/AIDS, Men, Mental Health, Physical Health, Relationships, Seniors, Sexuality, Women, Youth, and more.

Don’t Worry Be Happy If you Arent Happy Then What Are You?

Live life to the fullest, spread your arms and breathe, don’t be afraid of change, the world is for you to have not the other way around. Use the power of your mind to free yourself from the shackles of negativity.

Life is to short to be unhappy stop wasting time on negative impulse.Take negativity and use it as fuel for positive thought.

Self Help – Where To Make The Change

Self help deals mostly with the concept of self-development. Development of the self occurs in various stages and incorporates many facets that need to be explored. Self-help can be understood as the furthering of development of the self through self-realisation, self-actualisation and exploring of the self. We as humans have the ability to change aspects of ourselves that we may be unhappy with. The ability to change these aspects of ourselves and incorporate characteristics will ultimately empower us and the way we think of ourselves. Self help is more of a psychological endeavour than anything else and thus may take time to identify what we need help with and how to begin the process of the developing ourselves. Many times, self-help can be gotten from books which specialise on the topic or from certified therapists who are able to guide you through the process.

If you have decided to embark on the journey of self-development, it is important to remember some key fundamental aspects that you will need to consider from the very beginning: for one, you need to become your own self-evaluator of sorts, so exactly what is it you wish to develop or change about yourself? Secondly, are you able to maintain an objective stance towards your own development? Are you able to survey your changes that are going to be conducive to your ultimate growth?

The ability to honestly evaluate who you are and the changes you wish to make is already a huge step in the self-development process. The ability to challenge yourself is the aim of self-help and in this way, change the aspects of yourself which will make you feel better as a person. In order to begin the self-help process, you need to critically analyse facets of your life that you feel may need changing.

Look at the following list of aspects and ask yourself if this is where the change needs to be made:

Morals and Values
Stress, anxiety and fears
Dependency on persons or substances
Anger and rage
Understanding of ourselves and loved ones
Depression, happiness or ideas of the self

This is just to list a few of the concepts that you will need to look at in order to ascertain exactly where you think you need help. Once you have noted the things you would like to work on, you need to create a list of priorities and begin to slowly work towards facing and dealing with the challenges at hand. Remember, this process may result in you feeling more vulnerable or insecure than when you first started, but admitting the changes that need to me made is the first step to self-realisation.

Self-realisation occurs when we are able to gain insight into ourselves, the ability to do so will depend entirely on your willingness to work hard at self-development and whether or not you are strong enough to thoroughly unpack the good as well as the bad aspects of yourself. Once you have laid it out in front of you to examine, you can properly begin to work out and sift through what is both quite unnecessarily and undeniably important. Remember that this process can be both painful and most enlightening and exhilarating at the same time!

Once you have begun the self-help process, you will realise that you are a beautiful individual just waiting to be realised by not only others, but yourself and this realisation process begins with you having a strong and hard look in the mirror. Self-help equals self-love.

Don’t Worry Be Happy If you Aren’t Happy Then What Are You?

Live life to the fullest, spread your arms and breathe, don’t be afraid of change, the world is for you to have not the other way around. Use the power of your mind to free yourself from the shackles of negativity.

Life is to short to be unhappy stop wasting time on negative impulse.Take negativity and use it as fuel for positive thought.

Self Help Isn’t Just For Misfits Anymore

It used to be that the mere mention of “Self Help” made most of us think of folks that were constantly spouting “Happy thoughts” in an attempt to break free from their gloomy little worlds. Self-Esteem, Visualization and Venting were buzzwords that held little value to the semi-sane majority that just wanted some real help with real problems.

Fast forward about twenty years, and what a difference! Seems like everything is geared toward self:


I could go on, and on, and on… but you know what I’m talking about. Self help has taken on a monstrous life of its own, and stretched its slinky tentacles into every cobweb filled nook and cranny of our lives.

Is this a bad thing? I say it’s not!

Going overboard, and insisting on doing things yourself, can be unbalanced and unhealthy. Still, most of us are motivated by time or money savings to attempt things we never would have in the past.

This “I can do it” phenomenon isn’t limited to publishing your own book or diagnosing your own diseases on the Internet.

Self help has truly come of age…

“Self Help” has broken the bands of being associated only with mental health issues and now encompasses nearly every activity, though or problem you can dream of. There are self-help courses for weight loss, finances, health, attitudes… you name it.

It’s become so normal that it starts to make you wonder if there is any end in sight, doesn’t it? Will we all be glassy-eyed in front of our computers, so busy learning and doing everything ourselves, that we all become misfits in the end? Now that would be something!

The best thing in all of this, is that it shows people are hungry to better themselves. Indeed, very hungry. The market for self-help books, DVDs, websites and other materials has absolutely exploded over the last two decades. Why is this a good thing?

When people are eager to better themselves, and act on it, they hold valuable information and experiences that naturally will benefit those around them. We all benefit from that! If someone learns to control his anger, doesn’t the realm he has an effect on become a more peaceful place? If a woman learns how to lose weight and keep it off, don’t you think she’ll be happier? I do, and no doubt the ones she loves will benefit greatly.

No, self-help isn’t just for misfits anymore… it’s for all of us.

I’ve heard it said that “God helps those that help themselves”. If that’s so, then God must be pretty busy lately.

Did you know over there were over 13.5 million self help books sold in 2010? That pales in comparison to the hundreds of millions of visitors at “Self help” sites and the products that were sold there.

The Biggest Benefits of Reading Self-Improvement/Self-Help Books

Undoubtedly, the finest way towards personal growth is to read books. In the modern world, the impact of quality self-improvement/ Self-help books is unfathomable. In an era when excluding a selective few, everyone else is suffering from the ill-effects of stress-related complications, the self-improvement books could act as life-saving drugs. These books would help us see things in a different perspective. The dark shades of life would suddenly appear grey and when probed further begin to reveal colours hidden in them.

Mostly, the solutions of our problems lay hidden within us or in our surroundings. The self-improvement/ Self-help books point towards the right direction and help us find the solutions.

Here are the reasons why you should develop the habit of reading the books for self-improvement?

1. Motivation: In real-life, self-motivation is not always possible. However, nowadays, you need to continuously push yourself to perform better whether you are a student or a professional. The books for self-improvement act as a sort of motivating factor. Psychiatrists’ suggest people to start the day after reading some pages of a motivational quotes book of philosophy or self-improvement.

2. Inspiration: Some years back, we were moved after reading the story of an IAS Topper, G.K.Ronanki of Andhra Pradesh who successfully overcame the challenges posed by one of the toughest competitive exams held in India- the UPSC Exams, 2016. He made it to rank III. However, this feat alone does not make his story an inspirational one. G.K. Ronanki has achieved the feat by battling severe poverty. He is the son of two poor agricultural labourers in Andhra Pradesh.

Probably, the best way to inspire a person is to highlight the real-life stories of people who have endured immense hardships and came along winners. Some self-improvement authors utilise this tool to re-ignite the fighting spirit of the reader.

3. Encouraging Quotes: “Talk To Yourself Once In A Day… Otherwise, You May Miss Meeting An Excellent Person In This World.”-Swami Vivekananda.

Start a day after reading such precious quotes uttered by the masters of the world of philosophy. In fact, many of us are in the habit of following such life quotes on the internet. Reading even a single page of a book of self-improvement on a regular basis could be even more helpful. The digital world is itself a source of mental and physical stress. Hence, compared to a mobile or static device for accessing the digital media and read inspiring quotations, it is always better to have a good book by your side.

4. Unleashing the Inner Possibilities: Every human being is gifted with huge and unique types of possibilities. It is only this that they remain buried under negativity, apathy and disinterest. The self-improvement/ Self-help tips would help the readers unleash their inner possibilities and fulfil their aspirations by building self-targets and encourage them to enhance their performance.

5. A Different Interpretation: A worthy book of self-improvement/ Self-help would help you interpret your life in a different manner. Not only your views would expand but also become more positive. The uplifting words will help you stay calm during an adverse situation. In fact, this is the fundamental concept behind leadership coaching.

6. Live Outside your Comfort Zone: “The further you get away from yourself, the more challenging it is. Not to be in your comfort zone is great fun.” Benedict Cumberbatch

True words from the exceptional Hollywood hero. When you continuously push your limitations further behind, it is not only fun but it is the biggest proof of your personal growth. Self-improvement quotes could help you smash through your limitations, step into your problem zone and cultivate your inner possibilities to survive and flourish in this zone.

7. Developing Interpersonal Skills: Very often we come across people who are talented and hard-working but surprisingly enough, when the time of promotions arrives the individuals of lesser parity would surpass them to bag the rewards. This might even be the picture in an organisation where most democratic and equitable hierarchy system is followed. So, what could be the reason? It could be related to a person’s interpersonal skills.

We know the importance of quality and impactful communication skills in the corporate world. The books for self-improvement would help you hone your interpersonal communication skills so that your professional goals might not deceive you for this limitation of yours.

Realise your dreams by self-improvement. Reading motivational books could be more helpful than you could even imagine.

Motivation- is all that we want in our life to incorporate our energy and efforts into a things that we love to do, that we desire from our heart. There are several ways one can be motivated in life, by watching videos or by reading the motivational books or inspirational novels etc. No matter what is our resource of motivation, we should find a right path to guide ourselves, our dreams, our desires.